You’ve made it to Step 1! Congratulations. See, that wasn’t so bad. I’ve found that I usually make things way way worse for myself by imagining all these terrible scenarios and wasting energy with negative thoughts and worry. I’ve found the best way to counter worry is through meditation and tiny bouts of action. It’s easier for me to get out of my own negative thought patterns when I meditate or move.
When my negative brain is just screaming too loudly for me to open up to meditation, then I just move a bit and get out of my own headspace. I find something to clean or declutter. I write down all the thoughts that are spinning around in my head – getting it out on paper means I can clear it out of my system. I leave my apartment – go for a walk, run an errand, visit a friend, grab a cup of tea and read a book. Anything to shift my attention away from obsessing about food or some negative trait or perceived “weakness” of mine. When I’m at work and those things are unavailable ~ I take a few moments to write a gratitude list.
When I’m in the middle of eating too much, eating something my body doesn’t need, or doing any sort of self-destructive habit – the only way I’ve found to drop that behavior on the spot is through self-love. By telling myself that I deserve better, I create a positive way to shift behaviors. And when I don’t stop before or in the middle of an unloving habit ~ I use self-love to forgive myself and move on later. It is a great way to build a safe space to grow and change how you treat and nourish yourself.
Step 1: Start with self-love
The Takeaway: Success is much easier to attain when you are on your own side, rooting for yourself and remembering how much you are worthy and loved.
- Try out this self-love meditation
- Read the resources at Paleo for Women: Stefani first introduced me to self-love & she has many articles as well as a whole series devoted to self-love hacks
- Talk to yourself as you would talk to your daughter/son: unconditionally loving, encouraging, and forgiving.
- Remind yourself that you are worthy & deserving.
- A reminder: We are going for slow slow slow. Maybe you are itching to make a huge, radical change. Follow your instincts, as this is a process that is as much about trusting yourself as it is eating whole foods. I’ve found the greatest success, however, when I Do LESS than I think I can so I can make it a lifestyle rather than a temporary fad. Our negative thought patterns are so pervasive, sometimes we don’t even realize how we are bullying ourselves.
Psychology of Eating
Paleo for Women: Self-love-spiration, Food & Love Hack Friday, and her podcast: Live, Love, Eat
Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown, and all her work on shame
- Food for Thought #4 ~ Self-love, an introduction (from me!)