Love is the most powerful force in the universe. And the answer to everything. Beginning this summer, I have read A Return to Love
, started the Course in Miracles
, and have recently read through the book by Marianne Williamson
called A Course in Weight Loss
. I read it every day. I consult it morning and night. I’ve reframed my idea of “weight loss” into the idea of How much happiness am I ready to let into my life right now?
It’s a much more beautiful way to be. And uplifting.
I haven’t mastered the course yet. I haven’t seen it’s effects on my outer body. But I know I’ve addressed my root causes of my weight imbalances: viewing the world through a filter of fear, my inability to properly acknowledge and process emotions, and my inability to let go of my judgment and accept some things as they are. It is a daily process, but it is a joyful one.
I’m going to do the Course in Weight Loss again
, which consists of 21 Spiritual Lessons to help me find my natural weight and expression of beauty. I’ll be blogging about it as I go, and if you feel that is this right for you – I’d take much pleasure and honor in doing it with you. The first two weeks I’ll be simply introducing the beginning of the book and my experiences so far, and then from the 3rd week I will write about each lesson on a weekly basis. I most likely will take a few weeks off during the holidays to be with my family, but I get so excited about this transformation that you never know!
To give you a little taste of what we are in for, I’d like to share a few powerful quotations from the forward to the book by Dr. Dean Ornish:
It’s not really about the weight, it’s about the cause of your issues with food:
The real epidemic is not just obesity or heart disease or cancer; it’s loneliness, depression, and isolation.
This course is not about losing weight but finding the means to be truly happy:
What’s sustainable are joy, pleasure, freedom, and love. Even more than being healthy and losing weight, most people want to feel free and in control
There is no blame or judgment here:
The language of behavioral change often has a moralistic quality to it that turns off a lot of people (like “cheating” on a diet). It’s a small step from thinking of foods as “good” or “bad” to seeing yourself as a “good person” or a “bad person” if you eat these, and this creates downward spirals in a vicious circle.
It isn’t about willpower. You can relax!
…forcing yourself to do something, and pressuring yourself to do something is not sustainable. Again, what’s sustainable are love, joy, pleasure, and freedom.
You don’t need to diet!:
When we inevitably go off a diet, then we usually blame ourselves. Thus, humiliation, guilt, anger, and shame are inherent in most diet and lifestyle programs, and these are among the most toxic emotions.
Health comes from the root “to make whole”. The word yoga derives from the Sanskrit word meaning “to yoke”, to bring together.
True success comes with being vulnerable, and that is ok:
Intimacy is healing. Trust is everything, because we can only be intimate to the degree we can make ourselves emotionally vulnerable. A fully committed relationship allows both people to feel complete trust in each other. Trust allows us to feel safe. When we feel safe, we can open our heart to the other person and be completely naked and vulnerable to him or her – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. When our heart is fully open and vulnerable, we can experience profound levels of intimacy that are healing, joyful, powerful, creative, and intensely ecstatic. We can surrender to each other out of strength and wisdom – not out of fear, weakness, and submission.
Unify and you will succeed:
The values of community, compassion, forgiveness, altruism, and service are part of almost all religious and spiritual traditions as well as many secular ones – what the German philosopher Liebniz called “the perennial philosophy” – the common, eternal underpinnings of all religions once you get past the rituals and forms that are all too often used to divide rather than unify.
Altruism, compassion, and forgiveness may be healing for both the giver and the recipient because giving to others with an open heart helps heal the isolation and loneliness that separate us from each other.
It is not about your external circumstances but your inner vision:
When you meet hatred with love, and fear with hope, this transforms YOU, as well as those around you.
You are already at your natural weight and happiness:
[Masters practice] powerful tools for transformation and transcendence, providing a direct experience of what it means to be happy and peaceful if we simply stop disturbing our natural state of inner peace.
Love is the answer to all problems:
Our lives become manifestations of love, acts of love-the most powerful force in the universe.
Dean Ornish, M.D., Founder and President, Preventive Medicine Research Institute; Clinical Professor of Medicine, University of California, San Francisco
I wrote about the awesome trip
that I had with my brother and sister in October. But I also felt sad about the way I was looking in our vacation photos. More than sad, actually – downright judgmental! Working with my brother, a health coach
, we have been working on not only accepting what I see in the mirror but also loving it! I’ve definitely had softer feelings toward my chin the past few days. So I’m going to do a quick repeat of my first picture self-love practice and post all the good things about the following photo:
My immediate judgmental reaction: My chin is bigger so I must have gained weight, my skin is not as clear as it could be, my eyes are very squinty and my hair needs a wash.
1. I love being with my brother
2. My shirt is great. Everyone thinks it is from Japan, but I got it at a thrift store in Ironwood, Upper Peninsula, Michigan.
3. The food was amazing.
4. I enjoyed chatting with the cute waiter.
5. The ladies face in the background cracks me up.
6. I look happy.
There’s still work to be done, but now I feel like both my conscious and subconscious mind are with me in pursuing even better health and more joy. I wish the same for you!
Love, hugs, and warm fuzzies,